We live in a modern world where the Internet has a tremendous impact on people's
lives, views and actions. More and more people have turned to technology to make their lives easier and more convenient. Choosing to meet people online rather than be linked to someone by a mutual friend is one example. There are a variety of reasons some people choose to date online, while others chose to date face-to-face. Although online dating and traditional dating
are very different, they share some similarities.
Some people choose online dating because they feel they are disadvantaged
in traditional dating situations. They may be shy and find it difficult and stressful to meet new people. Online dating provides the opportunity for anonymity, and they can start a conversation in the comfort of their home or on the go with a mobile device. Some may find it easier to express their thoughts and feelings through the Internet, and once they feel comfortable with someone else, they may decide to meet with each other. The disadvantage for
a person in virtual dating is that they do not have friends to back them up. All the daters have to rely on is each other’s picture and profile with limited information available. Somehow, they have to get people to trust them. Not to mention that before someone says "hi" to somebody, they look at their picture first. If they do not like it, they do not bother saying hello or looking at the profile.
In traditional dating, there are many ways to find someone to date. It can be through a chance encounter that leads to friendship, then dating. It can be friends pushing two people together, and, somehow, it ends up working. It can be through hanging out with friends and social activities. It can be two long lost friends who find they are made for each other and so on. Some might think the old fashion way is a more effective way to meet potential dates. They may think that online is an illusion of pictures and words, and that it is misleading, confusing and distant. However, one of the downsides of traditional dating is that people usually do not know much
about the other person. This can lead to uncomfortable dating experiences. While on the other side, in online dating, they have the opportunity to scan through profiles and chat with the person before the effective date in the first place. This way, they can have a better idea about the life of the other person and interests, and that could make the first meeting more relaxed and enjoyable.
Online or face-to-face, which one is better? There are many ways to look at it. Basically, it all depends on where people are in their life. If they want to find somebody outside of their circle of friends, they could go for online dating. If they are not afraid of blind dates, real life could be the way to go. It is important to choose and take things at the right pace. If things move too fast it may be good to take a step back, breath, and not rush. In both ways, treat it as if it were a real
life date, taking things from the beginning and going from there. Both ways work for different people. I personally experienced both sides of the story and I can say that I had a better result dating online than traditionally. When I first met my husband on a phone call, it was very convenient to date online because of the distance between Brazil and United States. We did
not have to decide if we had found the other person attractive right away. We were both able to choose our words and make a good impression. Our initial reaction happened before meeting in person, because we had written profiles and pictures to help us along the way.
So which one is easier, online or face-to-face? The short answer is it all depends on personal preferences. Both methods use the same processes of getting to know each other, and following the routines that everybody has to go through in real life. No matter which method some might choose, they still have to introduce themselves, make an impression, and find someone they actually like and who will like them back.
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